Can same sex marriages on countries/states that acknowledge it have weight on the residential status?

We are a lesbian couple and are planning to get married though the issue lies is on the citizenship of each of us. I am Asian and my partner is an American. If we pursue on our plan, can we file a fiancee visa on one of the states that acknowledges same sex marriage?Can same sex marriages on countries/states that acknowledge it have weight on the residential status?Same-sex marriage is allow in those countries: In 2001, the Netherlands became the first nation in the world to grant same-sex marriages. Same-sex marriages are also granted and mutually recognized by Belgium (2003), Spain (2005), Canada (2005), South Africa (2006), Norway (2009), Sweden (2009), Portugal (2010),[63] Iceland (2010) and Argentina (2010). In Mexico same sex marriage is recognized in all 31 states but only performed in Mexico City. In Nepal, their recognition has been judicially mandated but not yet legislated. 250 million people (or 4% of the world population) live in areas that recognize same-sex marriage.Can same sex marriages on countries/states that acknowledge it have weight on the residential status?I''ve got money that says, yes. Although visas come under fed law, the feds are neutral re same sex marriages, and if it would be approved for a straight couple to do otherwise would be sexual discrimination, or at least I'd certainly think so.