What is the big deal with two same sex parents adopting a child?

I hear Christians whining about two same sex parents adopting a child who is being abused by so-called christian parents. Rather for them to be in a loving home than with two abusive straight so-called christian parents. The cases of sexual abuse of children is higher in straight communities than in Gay communities. Even christians (the real ones) can see that.|||Being adopted into a loving home with two (or one) parents who will respect you and provide for you is a hell of a lot better than living in foster care until you age out. Does it really matter what orientation you are?|||I know what you mean. Not all gays are freaking perverts!|||yup i totally get what you are saying


its soo sad to know about so many children waiting in an orphanage to be adopted


can't imagine how it must feel to not have parents who love you..





%26amp; there are so many gay/lesbian couples that wish to give their love %26amp; a GOOD home to children %26amp; society especially christians see it like the end of the world


i just wish the U.S could change at some point because every child deserves to be loved %26amp; be in a GOOD home..


%26amp; its such a sad thing that christians are against it because even though it does say in the bible marriage is between a man %26amp; a woman as good christians we learn how to accept others because we are not perfect ourselves..|||While I do agree it is better to have to wonderful devoted gay parents than two neglectful straight parents.





Some Christians believe it goes against the Bible... that children should be raised by a Mother and a Farther... as that is the way in which human reproduction works two men can't biolgical have children so as reuslt it isn't 'natural' or God's will for them to have children together.|||I don't think there's anything wrong with it...what is wrong is adoption itself.





What's wrong with helping and supporting women to keep their children? Oh wait..then there wouldn't be an adoption industry, or lots of little infants for desperate couple to buy. hmmm.|||I'll tell you why I don't like it. And all adoption is a "big deal", as you put it.





First I should tell you that I am agnostic, and an adoptee who has had gay male friends my whole life. One of my best friends is a gay guy whom I've known for over 15 years. He feels the same way I do about what he calls "gaydoption".





Adoption should be about children's rights, not about the "rights" of adults, gay or straight.





Adopted kids have suffered profound losses before they are adopted by ANYONE. They lost their entire families. I believe adoption should operate like a hefty insurance policy, giving the child as close to what they LOST as possible. That means a mother and a father.





Another thing that must be considered is that while straight couples DO break up, gay couples break up at much higher rates. This creates an unstable home who a child who NEEDS security. That said, I have no problem with long-term monogamous gay couples adopting from foster care--where the child has some choice.





I would much rather have been raised by a couple like my friends M%26amp;S over a Christian couple (I prefer Broadway musicals over church;-)) but they are the minority when it comes to their stability.|||Because Good Adoption Agencies have been using God and the two parents heterosexual family as their slogan for decades. That's how they get children away from young single mothers. It's that promise of what can not be given if one is not around, male influence from a father.





Do I agree with it? NO, but the same can be asked about single parents now being able to adopt. What's the difference? Money.





Usually the mother doesn't have any money, and is scared. so they convince her to surrender in the name of God and a better life for her child then turn around and sell that child to anyone who has the cash. They can be married, single, gay, straight, and sadly, pedophile.|||Gay!|||Exactly.





It's complety unjust to go on about how we are unfit to do something because of who we're attracted to.|||I have the same thought processes/beliefs for gay couples adopting as I do heterosexual couples....I am against UNNECESSARY adoptions of babies/children. If a gay couple is looking to 'legitimately'


adopt a child in terrible need of a safe and caring home life (with no chance of bio parents shaping up and no decent family members to take the child in)...then by all means. Just as I feel about 'straight' couples trolling for newborns...is the same way I feel about 'gay' couples doing the same thing. No woman/mother owes her newborn to other people, nor ever be guilted into providing a baby for those who cannot get pregnant or don't wish to get pregnant/impregnated.





I was raised and abused at all levels by my step-father...who touted himself as a Lutheran, sent us to a Lutheran school (where tuition had to be paid) and had to attend Sunday School and church. Only to come home and be abused by this 'Christian' monster!! As a child, while walking home from Sunday School %26amp; church...I would pray to Jesus to save me...He never did! I lost my religion a long time ago.|||How about making adoption a children's rights issue (what it's supposed to be) instead of a gay right's issue.|||the big deal is that they're adopting, not that they're same sex.|||We are gay and adopted a large sibling group from foster care. I personally think we are doing a pretty good job and I think that the foster care system should be more open to gays adopting.





But....I don't know about the whole abuse thing. Abuse happens everywhere, in every culture.|||More and more adoption agencies are adopting kids out to same sex couples and even single people. I see it on Adoption Stories on TV. xD|||What Christians think isn't the issue. The issue is what is true in reality.





The fact is that lots of research has been conducted by scientifically-credible experts and all of it reaches the conclusion that gay people are not disordered. The first psychologist to study the question without using a polluted sample of mentally ill people was Dr. Hooker in 1956. She gave her work to be independently verified by multiple experts and they all agreed that the gay men were studied could not be differentiated from the hetero men in terms of mental adjustment. That means gay people are just as good as heteros, not sick.





Further research that's been conducted over many decades has found that gay people parent just as well as heteros. In fact, some research has shown that gay parents tend to be better prepared because there aren't unwelcome accidental pregnancies.





The National Adoption Center, the American Medical Association, American Psychological Association, and the American Academy of Pediatrics all support gay parenting, including adoption.|||You're full of ****. Where do you get your statistics about abuse being higher in straight communities? In the first place, you're talking as if Christians and straight people are the same thing, which is wrong. You can be one without being the other. However, the bast case scenerio a parentless child has is to be adopted by Straight, Christian parents. If they are truely Christian and straight, they will provide a good home and good values for the child. If you who think children should be raised by atheist queers, you probably are one or the other if not both.|||I cant answer specifically on the Christian perspective because most of the people who I know object to same sex couples having children are not Christians.. in fact most are not religious at all.





I am an athiest myself. Homosexuallity doesnt concern me, but I truly dont like the idea of any child being raise without both a male AND female role model. Family life is absolutely essential a healthy upbringing!! May as well raise the kids in orphanages if you arent going to provide a supportive family structure with mum and dad.





PS maybe we hear about more abuse is higher in normal families because there are more of them? I would like to know where you got your info. please post appropriate reference. Cheers|||because christians think its wrong to be gay, Satanists dont think that, come to the darkside (we have cookies) :P christians think that its adam and eve not adam and steve, seems like they are the only ones complaining, i dont mind same sex marriages, or adoption, or anything, just because they arent attracted to someone of the opposite sex doesnt mean they cant have kids, this is why the christians should have their own country and the people who don't care can stay where they are|||There are a lot of bigots who fart out of their faces.|||Personally I think that anyone that adopts a child gay or straight is doing a very noble thing .. But Gays adopting a child is such a wonderful thing , because not only are you giving a child a life that they deserve but you are also showing that you are not afraid to show the real you ..|||"The cases of sexual abuse of children is higher in straight communities than in Gay communities. Even christians (the real ones) can see that"








Really? Given that in MOST countries, gay couples cannot adopt, where is your data coming from?|||People think you have to have a mom and a dad to raise you right. That's why single mom's don't believe they can take care of their babies on their own. Its just the world's point of view.|||You do not have any research or sources to back this claim. Even if it was true, the only reason the statistics would be higher for abusive heterosexual parents, is because there are MORE OF THEM! Homosexuals account for 17% of all hospital admissions in the United States, yet they make up only 1-2% of the population.(1)





Children who are raised in homes with a male and female parent have a much higher rate of success in all areas of their lives, especially in dealing with boundaries, discipline, respect, humility, and do not grow up with an "attitude" such as, 'it's all about me'. Since gay people are so selfish, they can transfer that attitude to an adopted child, ruining his/her chances of developing a healthy conscience and self-esteem.





Look a child in the eye and try to tell them when they ask you, why their friends at school have a 'mommy AND a daddy and they don't. I don't care how much "love" gay parents think they can give a child, you are still impeding them from understanding who they truly are. Parenthood still belongs to a married heterosexual couple and they do not necessarily have to be Christian. Every child has the right to be raised by a mom and a dad. They deserve the best start in life they can get, especially in today's unethical society.|||You are asking the wrong question or wording it incorrectly. You are mixing two arguments up.





You are giving arguments for homosexuals due to Christians and abusive relationships, but you are using emotion for your argument.





Christians and homosexuals can both be abusive. There are all types of abuse, including, but not limited to emotional, mental and physical.





The problem Christians have with homosexuality is that it is against their religious beliefs. This is the way they believe and they cannot go against their beliefs, just as you should not go against your beliefs.





Christians feel that if homosexuals raise children, then those children will also be homosexual. As of right now the only study's done on this subject are the Rekers %26amp;Kilgus and Cameron %26amp; Cameron, but there were problems with the studies, just as there are problems with all studies. The studies did show that children were more prone to be homosexual or bisexual if raised by homosexual parents by as much as 75%. 47% of the children raised by homosexual parents became homosexual themselves.





Now the problem you mentioned was abuse. You did not say what kind of abuse. Dr. Richard Von Krafft-Ebing was the first to officially classify homosexuality as a mental disorder. The Pentagon lists homosexuality as a "mental disorder". If homosexuality is a mental disorder then placing adoptive children into homosexual care-givers will then put the child into a possible abusive mental environment.





Another argument that you did not mention was that homosexuality is considered natural. This was first mentioned by Sigmund Freud. Freud only looked at the mental aspect. The problem with Freud's works are that if you look at homosexuality from a natural standpoint - natural existence and expanding of a species, homosexuality is against nature. Homosexual's without scientific intervention would cease to exist as a species or type on there own, because they would not be able to reproduce naturally. If nature wanted homosexuals to be able to produce, homosexual's would be Asexual. In other words they would be able to reproduce with themselves and would not require a mate of the opposite sex.





So, what is the big deal of two same sex parents adopting a child? Regardless of religious beliefs, it is putting a child in an unnatural environment and possibly putting the child in a mentally abusive environment.|||All I have to say is....... **** CHRISTIANS!!!!!!! There is nothing wrong with gay people. You can adopt a baby no matter what! Just stay strong and don't let anyone hurt your feelings about being gay! Gay people rock!!!!!!!!!|||I don't think there is anything wrong with gay people adopting children if they want a baby. Although I think homosexuality is wrong, It's completely against the bible. But, as an adoptive mother myself, I see the miracles of adoption. My husband and I would have never been able to have children if we hadn't adopted Ava. If you want to adopt from America, you most likely will not be given a child because birth mothers choose you, but if you really want to try domestic adoption, you should try fostering a young child. While most countries do not allow homosexuals to adopt, some countries(India) will allow you to adopt as a single. Good luck! PS- Im sorry if you are straight.