How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?

Prior to the women's movement of the 1970s, marriage was an equal partnership in which men agreed to provide financial security to a women in exchange for sex. The women put out and in exchange she got to have a secure life staying home and raising the children. Nowadays women are considered gold diggers if they expect for a man to support them while they stay home with the children. AND they still have to give out sex. It's as if sex has lost its value.How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?Sex *should* be a mutually pleasing experience. Its not the woman's version of work. The dynamics of the rest of the relationship -- including whether or not a woman stays at home or works her own job -- should be based on what's in the best interest of the family, not the sexual relationship between husband and wife.How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?
As a married woman, I don't want my worth determined by how much I 'put out.' That is a ridiculous notion and not at all accurate. Women were expected to keep the house and the kids and cook and clean while the man goes to work and 'provides' for the family.



Also, many women want to contribute to the household as much or more than her husband. Marriage is more of an equal partnership now, where both partners provide and take care of the kids and the house.



One last thing before I go, You talk as if sex is just something to repay your man for "taking care of you" and not an expression of intimacy and love between you and your partner. Sex in exchange for other goods or services is a form of prostitution. That would make your idea of the 'ideal wife' nothing more than a maid/nanny/prostitute who works for room and board.How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?I am a house wife. I cook, clean, run errands, take care of finances, take care of kids, and juggle everyone's activities. Not once I have I thought I was paying for this life by "putting out." Even though I work hard everyday to see to the needs of my family and we sacrifice a few luxuries to live this way, I am pretty sure that every bit of sex my husband and I have had has been mutually satisfying and consensual. Sex has never, ever entered into the equation of duties or services that require reimbursement.



The women's movement has always been around. The women who continue to struggle for improvements are actually battling so that we may all have a choice to live the way we wish.
You feel this way because you are young. Too young to remember that 1970 statistic that you are quoting. In fact, it was really during the pre 1950's that women stayed home and raised the kids. With the advent of birth control in mainstream society use in 1968 and on....cames the sexual revolution: Women can have sex for enjoyment, like men, and not just for reproduction and to please a man. Your biggest misconception is that women issued out sex as if it was a commodity. It is and was not, unless you are a whore/prostitute. Woman are 'catchers' during the sex act and men are the 'givers'. With that said....a smart woman can catch well and choose only men who valued her 'catching talents' to want to marry them and support them and have them raise their children as a 'partnership'.



You sound as if women do not like sex....WELL, WE DO. You need to get help with your thinking about sex and it's role in marriage. You are still young....if only in your thinking.How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?That seems like you are saying that marriage was a form of long term prostitution prior to the 1970's. Stay at home Moms (as a whole) are not considered gold diggers by anyone I know. A gold digger is a person who is after a person just for their money. Sex should be a pleasurable thing to do for both partners to give to each other, if you view it as giving simply because you are not getting sexual gratification, than you need to teach him how to please you and do it quick.How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?
Women will always be expected to have sex. Always have, always will.



What else goes with it, changes with the times. Sometimes its housework, these days is bringing home beer money. And most times it includes any diaper changing that just happens to be needed as as a result of the sex thing.
You're completely wrong about the exchange before the Women's Movement. It was not an exchange of sex for financial stability. Women are much more than a sexual outlet.



I don't HAVE to give out sex. I choose to, because I love sex. If you don't, don't get married.How come women are expected to give sex AND pay for themselves in marriage?
A woman would never write this. Anyway, if you don't like sex, then don't get married and don't have kids. Problem solved. You will have to work out your own security issues.
Not all marriages are like that. If you love and respect each other, you will be more equal in your marriage.
From my point of view, I am the one giving sex.