What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?

I want to know what makes it so special and meaningful when you could do it with anybody? (not saying i would) but you get what I mean.



BQ: Do you belive in sex before or after marriage and why?What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?This was a hard question for me to understand for a very long time. I've had my fair share of mistakes in this department, but have learned some key lessons along the way.



First of all, I believe sex is a sacred act. It should be used in marriage because it is giving yourself completely and unselfishly to your spouse.



When you have premarital sex, with one or more people, you are saying with your body that you are an object. You are giving your body to someone to use it and they have the choice to either love it or not. Sex that is driven by urges only harbors only selfishness and loses loving feelings over time, because it never had deep meaning in the first place. It's merely an act for pleasure and has no purpose but fulfilling that pleasure/desire/feeling.



The most spiritual, romantic, and loving way to look at making-love is to see it as a physical act that renews your wedding vows every time you do it. ( I have to say when I first heard this it sounded ridiculous to me, but hear me out) When you give your body fully to your spouse, you have the intention of bringing them pleasure and expressing commitment and love to them with your body. This mean Every time you have sex. Not just sometimes, when you're in a good mood. It is a symbol of trust that gives a unique type of bond and life to your marriage simply because you're giving yourself as a gift..





Take a moment to imagine this:

- You are saying your Wedding vows and promising your undying, eternal love to your spouse

- You are looking into their eyes and saying - I give you myself as a gift, I give my whole self, take all of me

- The mere fact that you give all of yourself with complete trust in someone is more intimate than anything else



....Now take it one step further and imagine yourself feeling that not only on your wedding day, but every time you make love - it takes it one step further because you're now naked and exposing all your flaws to your spouse... all the while knowing they won't judge you, but love you (all of you) instead. It's really a spiritual, life-giving, intimate and romantic experience all in one.



Compare that to a one-night-stand or even a steady boyfriend who you have the "lovey dovey" feeling for..... it doesn't measure up one little tiny bit.



Sorry for the novel... hope that bit of insight helps !What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?
I agree with the first answer. It's always personal but it's not always romantic. Sex can occur without any emotional involvement simply for the pleasure of the act, but it is always a personal exchange and a personal revealing to the person you have sex with.



Marriage is just a social construct, so it means whatever you want it to mean. I personally think that people who want to wait until they are married to have sex feel that way because they have learned to associate sex with guilt, dirtiness, or impurity. This is just really unfortunate. Sex is a natural, wonderful event - it is not dirty or bad, and these people really lose out on sexual fulfillment because of these associations. I also think people are foolish if they wait to have sex until they are married because they will most likely be disappointed, or disappoint their partner. To build sex up to be such a BIG thing when it's really not can only lead to disappointment.



Now, sex with someone you love, inside or outside a marriage is ALWAYS special because it involves someone you love and both people getting mutual pleasure and satisfaction out of sharing an intimate act. It comes with total acceptance of each other, physically and mentally, so it feels like a natural extension of your everyday intimacy and love.What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?Like the first person says, sex isn't always romantic but it is always personal. It's letting someone else inside your body (or vise versa for boys). You're naked with someone else, how could it not be personal? Unfortunately, sex has become a hobby for many people.



Yes, I believe in sex before marriage. I grew up in a loosely Christian household, but I believe sex is fine if you love the person. Sex before marriage, yes. Sex before love, no.
In my opinion, you can have sex with a blow up doll but is isn't as good as with someone who loves you.

I believe in sex before a marriage. Hardly anybody has seen sex after a marriage, so That is an iffy at best. You get married, you give your right to have sex to your wife. Seems foolish to me and I can't understand why any guy would get married if they knew this in advance.What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?It depends on why you are doing it. To get off, or because you have an emotional connection with your partner and want to further it by showing it physically. Some people will tell you that sex is merely mechanical, maybe, for some. But I don't believe it should be that way. And the consequences of just doing it with any ol' yoohoo will tell you that. I.E. unwanted pregnancy, std's, regrets, ruined reputation etc. The things that usually come from having sexual relations with some random person.What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?
For me sex would be romantic with the person you LOVE! not a boyfriend you have been dating for a couple months or a year. Its just something special you want to share with someone. And for me i am waiting until im married, for the simple fact its a sin before marriage, and i want something to look forward to (:
I'm Christian so after marriage. I wasn't Christian when I was younger so from my experience being a slave to your sexual urges is no picnic. What I appreciate most about the Christian way is the standard. If you go by the secular world view it is anyone's guess what the standard might be. How many sexual partners can you have before you are considered a slut? There are no forms of birth control that are 100% Unwed mothers and single parent homes are the major reason for poverty in this country. I hope and pray Christian principles and Holy Matrimony make a come back.What makes sex such a romantic and personal thing?
Well I guess because your physically and emotionally with someone..It just seems right.

And I believe in sex before marriage because marriage is such a big commitment and sometimes you have to be with someone like that (have sex) before you know if you really want to be with them.

Thats just my opinion though, completley understand if people diagree.



ps. sorry for bad spelling Dx xx
Sex can symbolise two lovers joining together, and also women see it as special because if something goes wrong with contraception you will most likely be bound to this man through the child for the rest of your life. sex before marriage is ok in my opinion as long as you are careful.
Sex is special with someone you love and care because there is feelings and a chemistry.I believe in sex before marriage if its with someone you love and care fore and have a serious commitment with
Sex is always a personal thing, but it is not always a romantic thing.



The romantic part comes into play when there are feelings involved.
when you love every piece of that person that you are doing, and you want to just soaked them in - as opposed to just get ****** and get off and leave
sex when your single is a personal thing but when you love someone or when your married its romantic.because your ding it because you love each other not like when your single its just for lust