So here's the low down:
In High school , i had a very inactive social life , by that I mean, i had a few select friends and we rarely did anything fun , ie we just met up at school , went to a couple of movies and that's about it. People ,at least in my mind , saw me as the big smart dude with glasses who didn't really have anything relevant or cool to say . I also never really thought about the idea of love , being in a relationship , having a crush etc. I just floated by without ever giving those concepts a thought. 5 monotonous years later , I am now in University, I have been working out a lot and consequently I have finally gained a tiny bit of courage to actually talk to people I haven't met anyone new to hangout with and most of the people I have come in contact with have their own lives outside of campus and only want to discuss topics that are academic oriented and what鈥檚 worse is that i only see these people for 4 months ,as that's how long one semester is. So , I pretty much gave up hope of finding friends until recently in one of my classes i met this guy who is totally is awesome , we both sort of have similar tastes in video games, converse about intelligent topics , and like to joke around with each other etc . I actually think i may have a huge crush on him too . In fact i think he is my first crush ever ie , i constantly think about hI'm but the thing is i don't intend to tell him or take my feelings anywhere , i just want to be friends with him because I'm not ready to be in a relationship with any girl/guy at the moment. I know he is into girls as well as we both like to joke around about going out with a hot girl in our class . We Went out for coffee and we got to talking , he tells me he too had a hard time meeting people when he moved to the city after high school and his one attempt at making a friend failed as that person turned out to be a weirdo who would constantly stare at him and was always on MSN asking him to do his assignments lol . I recently mustered the courage to ask him his msn and i practically converse with him everyday but I'm perplexed about a couple of things
1. Do u think it鈥檚 its weird that i am online every day and that i try to talk to him ? (my rebuttal to that is , i am online almost every day doing assignments, listening to music or whatnot so as a friend , i drop in to say hi and besides he's online too , which is weird judging by the fact that he says he only has 4 contacts )
2. He recently asked me if he was ugly because he hasn't been able to get any girls attention ( why do hot people always think they are ugly its mind boggling 0_o ). I said he wasn't and that he shouldn't worry about it but I don鈥檛 know if he felt weirded out by my comment.
3. I try to spend as much time as possible with hI'm because he says he might be moving back and (pushing my infatuations for one second aside ), as a friend i don't want to lose any special bond i have with him so i try to hang out with hi m . Does any one think this is weird ? Also he knows a ton of people at school but he (A.) doesn't hangout with any one of them and (B.) He spends most of his time at home which is strange ! if u know a ton of people ,why not hang out with them ?
4. Lastly , i recently noticed he was online but not to sound so anxious and awkward , I didn't say hi to him , finally hours later when i did , he took his own time to answer and seemed kinda moody, I casually mentioned something about a test and he says " f- that" and signs out . I firstly felt hurt because I really didn't do anything to offend him , at least that's what i think , but then sort of realized maybe he has some personal issues he is dealing with but what i don't get is the fact that i have had self esteem issues throughout my life and i have "never" reacted that way to another person before and hence i don't know how to take his response .
In conclusion here is my main question , and i rly apologize if i was rather lengthy in my explanation lol :
What should i do to Improve my demeanour socially so i can make friends and secondly how do i deal with my situation with the dude ? should i not be so eager over msn/when i hang out with him? or should I also adopt the "**** it , I'm too good for this " mentality and move on ? Your help would be a greatly appreciated :)Whats Wrong With Me ?
huge crush?
1)its not weird.i do it too
2)if i was he i wouldnt
3)i would do that too if my frnd was moving back.and the other fact is weird.
4)maybe he is having some issues.and dont blame yourself for everything
situation with the dude wil improve itself.try chatting online,helping people,asking someone out for coffee, hanging out at a shop and you know,making friends.i can be one if you want to.
basically,i think you are a good guy..............really,i mean this,GET OUT.
its weird.....a good guy like u having no frnds............
best of luck anyway,
and SMILE :)
Jen :)Whats Wrong With Me ?
:-(Whats Wrong With Me ?
really? this long?
this is what wrong with you! asking really long question on yahoo answers.
Now some good advice as i read the first and last paragraph of your really lengthy question!
if you are gay! i dont knw anything about you! if you are not read on!
Move on! don't give a sh** about anything! do what you want in life!
You can live without them! you can make your life better than all the a**h**ls out there!
just bring up the right attitude and enjoy life while you can!
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